Why does it feel good to hurt someone?

Two studies led by psychological scientist Erin Buckels of the University of British Columbia revealed that people who score high on a measure of sadism seem to derive pleasure from behaviors that hurt others, and are even willing to expend extra effort to make someone else suffer.

Is hurting someone’s feelings wrong?

Even when it is unintended, some people find it intolerable to hurt someone they love. To experience hurting the other can create shame, guilt and strong “I am a bad person” feelings. As a result, we may avoid saying what is on our mind and put aside our own feelings and needs.

What should I do if I hurt someone?

I Hurt My Friends’ Feelings. What Should I Do?

1. Use the power of a sincere apology. Apologies can go a long way toward healing hurt or angry feelings.
2. The important thing about an apology is sincerity.
3. Another element of a sincere apology is the intention to change.
4. Apologizing in person is best.
5. Forgive yourself, too.

What is the fear of hurting someone?

Harm OCD is a term used to describe OCD when intrusive thoughts focus on the possibility of harming others. The thoughts can take the form of fear you’ll harm someone close to you, a fear you’ll harm a stranger, or a fear you’ve harmed someone in the past and didn’t realize or don’t remember it.

What happens when we hurt someone?

When we hurt somebody, we tend to withdraw or pull away from other people. We don’t want to make them uncomfortable. We might not feel deserving of support. We might feel hopeless about the prospects of finding support, and we might be concerned about some form of retaliation.

Why do I cry when I hurt someone’s feelings?

People who experience abuse, neglect, or other trauma may struggle to make sense of what happened and cope with the resulting emotional pain and turmoil. If they don’t know how to express these unwanted feelings or ask for help, they might use tears to convey their need for sympathy and support.