Can you trust a narcissist?

You can’t trust a narcissist, so the best thing to do is to break free and never look back.

Can both children be scapegoats?

Counterintuitively, you don’t need a herd to become a scapegoat; only children can be scapegoated too. This is what Dora recounted: “In my mother’s telling of the story, everything that has gone wrong in her life can be traced back to me.

How narcissists treat their child?

A narcissistic parent will often abuse the normal parental role of guiding their children and being the primary decision maker in the child’s life, becoming overly possessive and controlling. This possessiveness and excessive control disempowers the child; the parent sees the child simply as an extension of themselves.

What is the purpose of the Flying Monkey?

The flying monkey is around to gather intelligence to help the NM further her agenda. When I was the young mother of two, I had not seen or heard from my brother, the Golden Child, for several years…he had been overseas with the military and when he came back, he didn’t tell me.

Do flying monkeys really have your best interests at heart?

But make no mistake: flying monkeys never truly have your best interests at heart because if they did, they would refuse to play secret agent for the narcissist. In my experience, flying monkeys fall into two basic categories: willing, complicit partners and well-meaning dupes.

What is the Flying Monkey’s threat?

The flying monkey may resort to outright threats: “if you don’t be nice to your mother, I will tell everyone you tried to seduce my ex-husband when we were still married” (when you did nothing of the sort).

Who is the Flying Monkey in the court case?

The court was full of flying monkeys as witnesses: an uncle, NM’s older brother who lived in another state and hadn’t seen me in seven years (before my children were even born), testified that mine was an unfit home, that he had seen it with his own eyes.