How do I move past transference?
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How do I move past transference?
It can poison your relationship with your therapist and make it impossible to move forward in therapy. But if you work through it, transference can take your therapy to the next level. It can guide you to your deepest wounds and give you the insights you need to heal them.
What are the three types of transference?
There are three types of transference:
- Positive.
- Negative.
- Sexualized.
How can we stop transference?
Step 1: Increase your own awareness of when it is occurring
- Ensure you are aware of own countertransference.
- Attend to client transference patterns from the start.
- Notice resistance to coaching.
- Pick up on cues that may be defences.
- Follow anxieties.
- Spot feelings and wishes beneath those anxieties.
Why does transference show up in therapy?
Why transference shows up in therapy. Transference occurs when you unconsciously ‘transfer’ or attribute, the feelings, memories and desires you experienced in your early important relationships to your therapist. Therapy heightens this unconscious propensity for bringing your feelings into the therapeutic relationship.
Can therapy get stalled due to transference?
Therapy can easily get stalled for a long time when ‘the elephant in the room’ (ie. your transference) isn’t brought into the work. I strongly encourage you – to the best of your ability – to talk about any feelings towards your therapist. ( For more info see Hannah in the Comments below.)
How do you experience your therapist in the present?
You experience your therapist – in the present – in much the same way you had experienced another person from your past. Again, transference happens when you unconsciously transfer the feelings, memories and desires you experienced in your early important relationships onto your therapist.
Do you experience transference in your relationships?
Consider that transference to some degree operates in every relationship. That includes your family and your friends (and even imaginary relationships triggered by teen idols :-)) It’s useful to see the tendency towards transference on a continuum – the degree to which it’s experienced is a matter of more or less.