How does it feel when you lose a parent?

As soon as you lose a parent it feels like your life has fallen apart and you are caught up in a whirlwind, but you do eventually get your feet back on the ground, I promise. The pain doesn’t go away, you just learn how to accept it, channel it and use it as a way of cherishing the person who was so cruelly taken from you.

How do you know if you have a toxic grandparent?

The toxic grandparent feels like you owe them time with their grandchildren. If they don’t get that time for whatever reason, they’ll accuse you of using your kid to hurt them. They will go as far as demanding time with your kid ONLY, trying to bypass you and take control of the situation.

Do you feel worse when your daughter dies?

You may actually feel worse for a time. Daughters expect to feel relieved, but are often surprised that along with that sigh, there may be feelings of fear, regret, isolation, and terrific loss.

Why does my grandparent say I don’t remember that?

Whenever you bring up painful moments from your childhood, the grandparent gaslightsyou by saying: “I don’t remember that,” or “You always exaggerate!” Quite simply, the grandparent is incapable of reflecting on their flaws and wrongdoings.

Is it OK to fall apart when you lose a parent?

It’s OK to lose your composure, to have an outburst of emotion in public or privately at home or to completely fall apart. We take a lot of strength from our parents, so when you lose one of them, it’s crushing. One thing I’ve noticed is that you tend to idolise the parent you’ve lost.

How have you felt since your father passed away?

I haven’t just felt one emotion since my father passed, my experience has been more like travelling the world. Each stage of your journey will be completely different, and as you wander through your grief, emotions will come and go.

Why do I feel the need to remember my parents?

Well, firstly, because they were your parent who you respected and loved, but also because you can’t bear to criticise them in any way when they aren’t around to defend themselves. It feels like the easiest way to remember them is in the best possible light.