Is it wrong to have expectations of friends?

While it’s noble to have high expectations, they often lead us to disappointment. Having too-low expectations, however, doesn’t fulfill us. It’s far better to have realistic expectations of friends. We can then accept our friends’ flaws and enjoy their presence more.

When you give don’t expect something in return?

When you give of yourself and expect something in return, it’s a transaction not a kind gesture. You have one eye on your actions and the other on what you’ll get in return. That not only takes you away from the moment, but you can’t do your best or be your best when you have a hidden agenda.

Why do some people have such high expectations of others?

High expectations often come connected to other issues, including: perfectionism. low self-esteem (failing at what you expect confirms your low beliefs of yourself) negative core beliefs (I have to be perfect to be loved, the world is dangerous so I need to be in control)

What is the power of expectation?

The power of expectation subconsciously controls your life to finally create self fulfilling prophesies. The expectations of those around you modify your behavior for better, or for worse. Your own expectations can fill you with energy, or drive you into despair and despondency.

Where do our expectations come from?

Expectations come from two sources, communications and experience. Communications: These are the messages we see, hear or read about something. If we were going out to a new trendy restaurant, we would very likely be somewhat influenced by advertising we had seen, reviews in the media, recommendations of friends, etc.

Do you struggle with making conversation with others?

But as long as they pick up on social cues, follow what people are saying, and talk in a way that makes sense, most do just fine. Not everyone has those skills, however. Some people really do struggle with talking to others. This trouble with making conversation can have a big impact on self-esteem.

How do you know if you are a good communicator?

If other people are not open to your ideas, it doesn’t matter how good your intentions are, you’re not a good communicator. It’s not up to people to understand your message, it’s up to you to make it clear and acceptable. Focusing on the response that you’re getting to evaluate how good you are communicating

Is it true that some people don’t like small talk?

Plenty of people don’t love making conversation, especially small talk. Some think they’re “bad” at it. Some are shy. But as long as they pick up on social cues, follow what people are saying, and talk in a way that makes sense, most do just fine. Not everyone has those skills, however.

Does expecting other people to behave the way you want make them?

Yet many of us at some point have mistakenly believed that expecting other people to behave the way we want will actually make them behave that way. One member of a couple might expect the other to make coffee. This is fine and good if the other person is happy to do so.