What to do when your mom compares you to others?

How To Cope With Parents Who Compare?

1. First, although taking your neighbor as a scale of comparison, is wrong learn to make the best of the situation.
2. Second, never let such comparisons demotivate you.
3. Third, set your own level of expectation.
4. Fourth, you can always turn the table to suit you.

What should I do if my mom says hurtful things?

16 things to do when your mom says hurtful things

1. Show that you are not dependent on her.
2. Listen your favorite songs.
3. Let dad know about it.
4. Let your friends relatives know about it.
5. Stay calm and do nothing.
6. Spend time with your pets.
7. Go for outdoor adventure.
8. Let her know what she doing wrong.

Why do moms mock me?

The way that school bullies made you feel when they mocked or made fun of you shouldn’t be the way that you feel around your mother. If she mocks you, that’s a further sign that there might be some emotional abuse going on, Kreiter says.

Is comparing your child to others?

And the same applies to our children. By constantly comparing our child to other children, we increase his anxiety and stress levels. Children want to please their parents and not being able to do so can make them anxious. It can lower their self-esteem when they start to believe that everybody is better than they are.

Why do my parents compare me to other young people?

Your parents understand the dynamics of peer pressure, and in their fear that you may not grow up into a fine adult, believes that they can use peer pressure via comparisons to steer you “right.” Your parents equate your achievements with their own worth and family repute, and your worth as their child.

Why do my parents compare and contrast everything?

First, the WHY. A little perspective, now that I’ve had enough time to have perspective from when I was a teenager. Your parents compare, because “comparisons and contrasts” is a human skill, and one that has evolutionary advantage. We all, to some degree, compare and contrast the “I” and “not I”.

Why does my mother always try to control me?

It’s all about control. She controls you with this behavior, because she is terrified of losing control of you for some reason. In my work I see this a LOT in the mother/daughter dynamic. I believe mothers come to see daughters as competition, and also as a reflection of their own perceived failures.

How do you force your kids to be better?

You force your kids to be better by telling them how much they suck. At the rate and prevalence this occur, you’d think this was considered a best practice. First, the WHY. A little perspective, now that I’ve had enough time to have perspective from when I was a teenager.